Building a happy relationship

I was on facebook just now and that's what I have read from a friend's note. "It was about an article," she writes, "written by T. Selva, The Star’s Sunday Metro Editor. Titled “To love and to cherish”, he talked about good relationships and how to maintain them. At first glance, I thought “What the heck, anyone can write something like that”. But as I read on, I realised how much I could relate to what he wrote."

Tips to build a happy relationship :

• Be willing to change.
• Be honest to your spouse / partner.
• Avoid competition between the two of you.
• Both must complement each other.
• Avoid being possessive and selfish.
• Be kind, gentle, patient and loving.
• Keep romance alive in your relationship / marriage.
• Say sorry if you have made a mistake.
• Be supportive in whatever he or she does.
• Have integrity and this will gain honor.
• Be a good listener, pay attention, and be open.
• Give surprises as it adds tonic to the romance.
• Cracking jokes helps to build a cheerful relationship.
• Never bring past problems and unpleasant incidents.
• Develop compassion for your partner and yourself.
• Know the likes and dislikes to shape the relationship.
• Exercise sweetness of speech and never use harsh words.
• Treat your spouse / partner the way you would like to be treated.
• Leave little notes for him or her when you miss each other.
• Express appreciation by saying thank you even for everyday things.
• Practice forgiveness as sometimes mistakes are made unintentionally.

A good list of small actions to be done with great love. As I read further, I thought, this list shouldn't be meant only for the couples! It is more to a guideline that teaches us how to live harmoniously with others and establish happy relationships with people around us. Be them our friends, family members, or just the strangers that come into our life.

• Be willing to change.
• Be honest to your friends and family members.
• Avoid competition between you and your friends.
• Avoid being possessive and selfish.
• Be kind, gentle, patient and loving to them.
• Say sorry if you have made a mistake.

And the list goes on. If you feel lonely and lament for too few friends to be by your side, think of this. To build a happy relationship, it always start from giving. Giving truthfully to the others, but not asking for return in the first place.


Somehow, there is this one last sentence which is dedicated only for the loved ones:

“A good relationship blossoms when two people decide to share instead of trying to change each other. ”

=)