哈哈！ copy Gengwai's title post! 今天是年初五，也是一年一度的情人节噢~~~！！
今年，在英国没有白色情人节，只有轰轰烈烈的（大太阳）情人节。哈哈哈。。
突然想起了这个video，蛮有意思的~~
相处的质与量，都是非常重要的元素。
我们与他人相处得时候，是否都有如此的心态，全心全意地为对方活着呢？
爱，是存在，是包容，是体谅。
祝天下的情人，情人节快乐！！
Thursday, February 14, 2013
Saturday, February 9, 2013
新年快乐
今天除夕夜才发现，自己今年一件新衣也没有，啊怎么行？！赶紧在团圆饭后去逛逛街，结果在最后一分钟看见了一件上衣，买了！哈！今年有新衣穿啦~~
祝福大家, 农历新年快乐！转眼又到了本命年，啊，正直最最青春年华的我们，单纯快乐的我们，（曾经）年少轻狂的我们！我们是社会的栋梁，是最有精力的一代，是年少的旺盛与成熟睿智的融合！希望我们大家能一起好好珍惜自己的生命，认清自己的价值，让自己不断地发光发热，发挥自己的价值，照耀别人的生命！
最近好喜欢这句话：
祝福大家, 农历新年快乐！转眼又到了本命年，啊，正直最最青春年华的我们，单纯快乐的我们，（曾经）年少轻狂的我们！我们是社会的栋梁，是最有精力的一代，是年少的旺盛与成熟睿智的融合！希望我们大家能一起好好珍惜自己的生命，认清自己的价值，让自己不断地发光发热，发挥自己的价值，照耀别人的生命！
最近好喜欢这句话：
昨日种种，譬如昨日死；今日种种，譬如今日生。
新的一年，新的开始，除垢迎新，迎善去恶。
愿所有的善缘都能具足与增长，愿所有的恶习都能熄灭消除。
愿我们心中都有多一点爱，多一点包容，每天都能生活在幸福，快乐，与安详中。
自己快乐，也愿别人能感受到那份喜悦。
新年快乐哦~~~
Tuesday, February 5, 2013
Monday, February 4, 2013
Sunday, February 3, 2013
About facebook
首先，我必须承认，我是一个每天会按Facebook来看的人。不知道世界上有多少个人像我这样呢？Hehe..这次让我用broken English 写好了.
Yeah I can't tell how much I loved facebook. Well, actually it's not love, it's more like a habit. It's like a place I would 99% click to when I have nothing to do and....actually I feel stupid by doing so. Why? Simply because, all the news feed were from all my friends. I mean ALL. The more friends I have in facebook, the more diverse information will automatically pop up in my news feed. Well, to be honest, we don't need to know what Mr X and Miss Y eats every morning or what they did every moment, whether they are playing with cats, eating desserts....=.= That is simply too much. We all have our own lives to live and how can we be concerned about 500+ friend's lives every day? Some people were even posting at the rate of every 5 minutes per post. I would need to have at least 48 hours a day to browse through all the events taking place in the world. In facebook, we more or less can't decide what kind of information we want to know. Most of us just 'receive' like a dustbin of what your friends tell u or what the public / facebook want u to know. Which is why I feel Stupid. Hence, it has been long time ago since I last scroll down to look at those news feeds. Unless I was really bored to death.
But then....let's admit it, Facebook must have its functionalities which enables it to exist till today. In an era when the thing almosteveryone will log on to across the countries is the social network, u need this to keep in touch with those that appeared in your past before, and those that u don't even have their phone number in your mobile. More to this, funny to say, sometimes we even need facebook for some formal conversations, creating an event or organisng a meeting. It has been so convenient that emails have gradually been phased out. (Except for those very formal academic stuff or personal preference.)
Back to the topic, afterall, Facebook is just a tool, and it really depends on how we use it. We can either be the master of it and use it for our convenience, or become a slave which could not pull ourselves off from the forever entertaining world provided by facebook. You see, Fb is so smart. It makes us feel entertained without putting much effort. It makes us and our friends providing enough entertainment to one another, creating a positive loop that goes on and on.
Then, what can we do to wisely utilise this social network? Perhaps for me, one of the thing I do is STOP scrolling down and browse every news feed every now and then. If I have a choice, I wouldn't have put news feed as the main page of Fb but rather my close friends' list. Of course it is impossible to isolate at all from what's happening out there. Sometimes we do need to know sth from other's point of view. But in terms of accuracy of the news, most of the times they are exaggerated; In terms of broadness of the topics, it mainly depends on how many people posted it. And sometimes people are crazily interested in those meaningless videos/articles And they post it all out....So, browsing news feed to get your news updated, I wouldn't say it's a wise choice.
Second is to ask myself what I really want from Facebook. I knew that one of the main reasons I can't help clicking facebook is because I am concerned with my close friends' lives as well as those formal conversations going on between my friends. So, I put those friends I appreciate into my close friends' list and I receive notifications from what they posted. Which most of the times is sufficient enough for me to keep myself updated.
The third thing, also the most important one, is again asking myself what kind of information I wanna know from facebook. Decide it. You know, as a person like me who will check Facebook every day, I am likely to get a huge influence from the facebook content in the long run. Hence, it is really important that I ( and I mean all of us) decide what kind of influence you want to get out of it. Without realising this, we will end up being a DBKL (rubbish collection service in KL) of all the rubbish information in facebook. As for me, I realy don't wanna be like this. So, choose our source of influence and information wisely.
Sometimes, and it's getting more prominent now, we are constantly getting exaggerated or false piece of information circulating in the network. Or some really negative comments. Or something that will do us no good but we still spend 5 minutes watching them. So, if we know we can't get away from Facebook, why not creating some fresh 'input source' for ourselves. Decide what u will like to get, search for it in facebook and "like" those pages. As for me, I am really interested in the articles about life, philosophy and Buddhism, so I deliberately like/subscribe to those pages that I like. And for some friends whom I know have been posting meaningful articles/sources, I add them into my close friends' list. And then I get notifications from the input sources that I choose. And in this way, I ensure myself receiving postive influence/ input whenever I decide to have a "chill-out" session when browsing facebook. I am literally inserting Positive energy into my life even during my entertainment time, which makes me feel so good when playing facebook. In other words, I have helped myself filtering out unnecessary information, retaining those important and beneficial for me.
A lot of us too can do it! Fully utilise the "like the page" option, choose something apart from your idols, entertainment news to "like". It can be an inspirational page (gives you a good start in the morning), motivational quotes, some official page with genuine news you want to know...the ocean of knowledge is vast. And one important thing is, don't simply post whatever stuff that you really like because not everyone will love it. Sometimes I can't help but hiding those friends who constantly post how they feel,what they eat, what they watch, and those who like to post rubbish information Every-single-day. Sorry, my brain is too small for them. Of course we need a way to express out our thoughts or feelings, but things go bad when they are too much.
Here's my way to dealing with Facebook. Facebook too can bring a lot of happiness to us but first of all we have to decide what kind of happiness we want to get from it. Facebook is great when you enjoy it moderately! Haha.
Yeah I can't tell how much I loved facebook. Well, actually it's not love, it's more like a habit. It's like a place I would 99% click to when I have nothing to do and....actually I feel stupid by doing so. Why? Simply because, all the news feed were from all my friends. I mean ALL. The more friends I have in facebook, the more diverse information will automatically pop up in my news feed. Well, to be honest, we don't need to know what Mr X and Miss Y eats every morning or what they did every moment, whether they are playing with cats, eating desserts....=.= That is simply too much. We all have our own lives to live and how can we be concerned about 500+ friend's lives every day? Some people were even posting at the rate of every 5 minutes per post. I would need to have at least 48 hours a day to browse through all the events taking place in the world. In facebook, we more or less can't decide what kind of information we want to know. Most of us just 'receive' like a dustbin of what your friends tell u or what the public / facebook want u to know. Which is why I feel Stupid. Hence, it has been long time ago since I last scroll down to look at those news feeds. Unless I was really bored to death.
But then....let's admit it, Facebook must have its functionalities which enables it to exist till today. In an era when the thing almosteveryone will log on to across the countries is the social network, u need this to keep in touch with those that appeared in your past before, and those that u don't even have their phone number in your mobile. More to this, funny to say, sometimes we even need facebook for some formal conversations, creating an event or organisng a meeting. It has been so convenient that emails have gradually been phased out. (Except for those very formal academic stuff or personal preference.)
Back to the topic, afterall, Facebook is just a tool, and it really depends on how we use it. We can either be the master of it and use it for our convenience, or become a slave which could not pull ourselves off from the forever entertaining world provided by facebook. You see, Fb is so smart. It makes us feel entertained without putting much effort. It makes us and our friends providing enough entertainment to one another, creating a positive loop that goes on and on.
Then, what can we do to wisely utilise this social network? Perhaps for me, one of the thing I do is STOP scrolling down and browse every news feed every now and then. If I have a choice, I wouldn't have put news feed as the main page of Fb but rather my close friends' list. Of course it is impossible to isolate at all from what's happening out there. Sometimes we do need to know sth from other's point of view. But in terms of accuracy of the news, most of the times they are exaggerated; In terms of broadness of the topics, it mainly depends on how many people posted it. And sometimes people are crazily interested in those meaningless videos/articles And they post it all out....So, browsing news feed to get your news updated, I wouldn't say it's a wise choice.
Second is to ask myself what I really want from Facebook. I knew that one of the main reasons I can't help clicking facebook is because I am concerned with my close friends' lives as well as those formal conversations going on between my friends. So, I put those friends I appreciate into my close friends' list and I receive notifications from what they posted. Which most of the times is sufficient enough for me to keep myself updated.
The third thing, also the most important one, is again asking myself what kind of information I wanna know from facebook. Decide it. You know, as a person like me who will check Facebook every day, I am likely to get a huge influence from the facebook content in the long run. Hence, it is really important that I ( and I mean all of us) decide what kind of influence you want to get out of it. Without realising this, we will end up being a DBKL (rubbish collection service in KL) of all the rubbish information in facebook. As for me, I realy don't wanna be like this. So, choose our source of influence and information wisely.
Sometimes, and it's getting more prominent now, we are constantly getting exaggerated or false piece of information circulating in the network. Or some really negative comments. Or something that will do us no good but we still spend 5 minutes watching them. So, if we know we can't get away from Facebook, why not creating some fresh 'input source' for ourselves. Decide what u will like to get, search for it in facebook and "like" those pages. As for me, I am really interested in the articles about life, philosophy and Buddhism, so I deliberately like/subscribe to those pages that I like. And for some friends whom I know have been posting meaningful articles/sources, I add them into my close friends' list. And then I get notifications from the input sources that I choose. And in this way, I ensure myself receiving postive influence/ input whenever I decide to have a "chill-out" session when browsing facebook. I am literally inserting Positive energy into my life even during my entertainment time, which makes me feel so good when playing facebook. In other words, I have helped myself filtering out unnecessary information, retaining those important and beneficial for me.
A lot of us too can do it! Fully utilise the "like the page" option, choose something apart from your idols, entertainment news to "like". It can be an inspirational page (gives you a good start in the morning), motivational quotes, some official page with genuine news you want to know...the ocean of knowledge is vast. And one important thing is, don't simply post whatever stuff that you really like because not everyone will love it. Sometimes I can't help but hiding those friends who constantly post how they feel,what they eat, what they watch, and those who like to post rubbish information Every-single-day. Sorry, my brain is too small for them. Of course we need a way to express out our thoughts or feelings, but things go bad when they are too much.
Here's my way to dealing with Facebook. Facebook too can bring a lot of happiness to us but first of all we have to decide what kind of happiness we want to get from it. Facebook is great when you enjoy it moderately! Haha.
Saturday, February 2, 2013
规律
哈咯！新的学期要开始了。每每当要开学时，我都会“很痛苦”，痛苦地想着如何能让自己不掉入无尽的“轮回”中：睡觉，上课，做不完的功课，不够睡，上课，做功课，不够时间。。。总是觉得自己被许多的DEADLINES推着往前走，走得头昏脑胀的摸不清方向。觉得自己总是没办法好好掌控自己的生活。。
师父说得很对的，越忙的人其实越需要修行，因为修行（简单来说认识自己，训练自己的心专注）能让我们更加专心，才能时时都投入在每一刻所做的事情，所以才不会该做功课时上facebook, 该睡觉的时候担心功课做不完。。我们常常都活在心不在焉的情况中，结果什么事都做不好。其实，心里是很痛苦的。
哈哈，回归正题，在幸福课之后，我又无意中发掘了一个宝藏, 和大家分享：
http://artofmanliness.com/2011/09/05/bookend-your-day-the-power-of-morning-and-evening-routines/
这个是一个很酷的article，告诉我们规律生活的重要性。(which coincides with the concepts of introducing rituals in Positive Psychology)
有规律，长远来说，是一件很好的事，也有其重要性。
有了规律，我们的心，它会被训练而习惯了，在对的时候，知道要做对的事，不再捉摸不定，或者有一大堆念头来干扰我们。
不过，往往我们年轻人，觉得规则是一种束缚，我们想要“自由”，所以不喜欢设规则。
结果呢？每天从起床开始，就会有一大堆的抉择让我们去思考：是要去冲凉还是去运动？要去读书还是看戏？乍看起来，是很好的，因为我们有“自由意志”去选择；
可是，一整天的选择题下来，我们的willpower quota会渐渐用完 (Decision fatigue)，我们会渐渐感到不耐烦。最后，我们会怎样呢？哈哈。。就是选择“容易的出口”(an easy way out)...比如说，尤其是到了晚上，当你问自己，是要读书还是看mindless surfing?我的手已经按向facebook 了哈哈。。。
所以，到最后，我们是更加自由呢？还是更加不能自主呢？我们给太多选择题给自己了，会累死的。
长期下来，我们会发现，我想要做的事/愿望，常常没有实现。因为在这样的生活方式，我们永远会没有时间for那些事情：Exercise, Reading, meditation....
规律，看起来是束缚你的；可是，只要我们会运用它，长期下来，我们会发现，我们毫无费力地做到了我们想做的事，过想要过的生活。它反而给了我们更多的自由。
我相信，伟大的人物都是从有规律的生活培养而来的。有一次，在参观一个emperor的博物馆中，导游就说了emperor的日常生活，是每天五点起床，开始洗刷和阅读政章。哇，我心里想！五点耶！不是普通一般人可以做到的，可是堂堂一个emperor可以享受生活的，却愿意如此。
嘿，所以让我们来尝试有规律的生活吧！让大脑节省不必要的消耗能量在选择题上。
这是我新拟的作息：
7.00 wake up
7.10 - 7.45 Meditation
7.50 - 8.15 Breakfast
8.15 - 开工
10.45 pm Close all work, rest mind
11.15 pm Meditation
11.30 pm Sleep.
不过还需要调整，因为开学后我要提早出门去学校。然后，想要introduce 运动！
不过不用紧，有行动就是好的开始！
认知一定要配合行动，才能成功。
祝我好运！^^
师父说得很对的，越忙的人其实越需要修行，因为修行（简单来说认识自己，训练自己的心专注）能让我们更加专心，才能时时都投入在每一刻所做的事情，所以才不会该做功课时上facebook, 该睡觉的时候担心功课做不完。。我们常常都活在心不在焉的情况中，结果什么事都做不好。其实，心里是很痛苦的。
哈哈，回归正题，在幸福课之后，我又无意中发掘了一个宝藏, 和大家分享：
http://artofmanliness.com/2011/09/05/bookend-your-day-the-power-of-morning-and-evening-routines/
这个是一个很酷的article，告诉我们规律生活的重要性。(which coincides with the concepts of introducing rituals in Positive Psychology)
有规律，长远来说，是一件很好的事，也有其重要性。
有了规律，我们的心，它会被训练而习惯了，在对的时候，知道要做对的事，不再捉摸不定，或者有一大堆念头来干扰我们。
不过，往往我们年轻人，觉得规则是一种束缚，我们想要“自由”，所以不喜欢设规则。
结果呢？每天从起床开始，就会有一大堆的抉择让我们去思考：是要去冲凉还是去运动？要去读书还是看戏？乍看起来，是很好的，因为我们有“自由意志”去选择；
可是，一整天的选择题下来，我们的willpower quota会渐渐用完 (Decision fatigue)，我们会渐渐感到不耐烦。最后，我们会怎样呢？哈哈。。就是选择“容易的出口”(an easy way out)...比如说，尤其是到了晚上，当你问自己，是要读书还是看mindless surfing?我的手已经按向facebook 了哈哈。。。
所以，到最后，我们是更加自由呢？还是更加不能自主呢？我们给太多选择题给自己了，会累死的。
长期下来，我们会发现，我想要做的事/愿望，常常没有实现。因为在这样的生活方式，我们永远会没有时间for那些事情：Exercise, Reading, meditation....
规律，看起来是束缚你的；可是，只要我们会运用它，长期下来，我们会发现，我们毫无费力地做到了我们想做的事，过想要过的生活。它反而给了我们更多的自由。
我相信，伟大的人物都是从有规律的生活培养而来的。有一次，在参观一个emperor的博物馆中，导游就说了emperor的日常生活，是每天五点起床，开始洗刷和阅读政章。哇，我心里想！五点耶！不是普通一般人可以做到的，可是堂堂一个emperor可以享受生活的，却愿意如此。
嘿，所以让我们来尝试有规律的生活吧！让大脑节省不必要的消耗能量在选择题上。
这是我新拟的作息：
7.00 wake up
7.10 - 7.45 Meditation
7.50 - 8.15 Breakfast
8.15 - 开工
10.45 pm Close all work, rest mind
11.15 pm Meditation
11.30 pm Sleep.
不过还需要调整，因为开学后我要提早出门去学校。然后，想要introduce 运动！
不过不用紧，有行动就是好的开始！
认知一定要配合行动，才能成功。
祝我好运！^^
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