懒洋洋的周末

好喜欢周六周日！

因为这两天我难得可以比太阳公公更迟起床。

望出家门，进入眼帘的尽是美景美色。

葱绿的树，蓝蓝的天，

偶尔在清澈的蓝中漂浮着看似酥绵的白云；

还有黄金铺地，整个生机勃勃的画面，

让人感觉就是要卸下心中的琐事，

只身投入于这片大自然的美景中！

工作了，让我懂得欣赏周末的美丽。

#懒洋洋的周末

#等一个人茶

每个人，都在等一杯合适自己的茶。

在等着的当儿，口渴了，也许就会随手拿了一杯茶来解渴。

虽然他，不是你心中的那杯茶，但是在对的时候出现了，好比你空等待一杯未知的饮料好。

然而，当你心里清楚知道，你要的不是他，喝了这一口，非但不合自己的口味，而且糟蹋了它- 它也许就是别人的朝思暮想的茶呀！

但是，话说回头，不去品茶，又怎么能知道哪一个是好茶，哪一个是自己喜欢的茶呢？

#等一个人茶 

呼吁写部落

今天，写着写着，发现身边比较亲的朋友，怎么都没有在写部落格了。

是因为，生活太累太忙碌，忙到没有整理思绪和分享的时间吗？

还是因为，部落格是中学和大学生的玩意儿，所以兴趣缺缺了？

又或者是，没有了写的习惯，有种提不起笔的劲儿？

还是，面子书的盛行，资讯的爆炸让我们看得目不转睛，已无暇再回顾生活的点滴啦？


无论是什么稀奇古怪或是平淡无奇的原因，我希望大家能腾出一点点地时间，写一写，好让我刷新时有内容看嘛！也让我知道你们的近况。

是的，就是在说你你你你和你，赶快打扫你们部落格的蜘蛛网好吗？


写文章，也是一种整理思绪的治疗噢！
而且只需要一点点时间。
一点点。

就像这片“呼吁写部落”文，用不上五分钟。
哈哈！

Social support

During my university year of studying MPharm, one of my most favourite subjects appears to be my fourth year option: Health psychology. It has given me many insights of the different psychological aspects of patients' behaviour,and to me, it is like a journey of understanding human behaviours.

One of the topic that was covered during the course is social support. I found it particularly relevant to the phenomenon we come across today.

Social support can come in many forms and it can provide different functions. One of the important function of  social support is to reduce stress in people. People will feel less stress when they know there are people to help. How does it work? It can work through a few mechanisms, while what I learned there are three: 1) Direct effects: Where in reality a person in need get actual help from his social network; 2) Matched hypothesis: people will always find someone that they think could help solving their problem to confide their secrets; and what amazes me is 3) Buffer effect: one doesnt have to be there to help but as long as the person knows he will be there if needed, it does reduces the stress of a person who perceived the help offered.



To me, the  buffer effect is how the social support makes up the most of our relationships nowadays, especially when social media is becoming the main way of communication. Although we do need people around when we are in trouble, but most of the time we are NOT really in trouble. In daily life what we need more is a sense of security and assurance, that someone will always and is going to be there, to provide help when they are needed. The frequent contacts on whatsapp and the people in facebook that we always interact with, somehow provide us this kind of social support, giving us some mental reassurance through buffer effects. Although we don't really need them to be in presence with us all the time. We do feel a little safer when we know in mind who's there.

The concept can be applied in real life too. Imagine that we are at home. It's easy to feel lonely when we know there is nobody else at home. It seems the world has forgotten us and everyone has moved on without the presence of "me". However, when we are at home together with our housemates or parents, it might be a different story. Although u are not talking to them and were doing your own stuffs at different rooms, their presence surprisingly keep u safe, secure and warm, mentally and psychologically.




So, lonely or not? It depends on both physical and psychological aspects. Many people are physically alone but mentally or psychological they are not. However, psychological side of social support can never replace the physical support, don't u think so? We can never laugh together or watch movie together on whatsapp or facebook. It still makes a great difference to have a friend in real life and a virtual friend. Deep in our heart, we know that some kind of social support is like a bubble - it gives us temporary comfort but we knew we could never rely on that for help when we really need it. A social support that provides only buffer effect will easily bring in frustration and disappointment when it cannot fulfill our wish.

We are now living in an era where people are relying more and more heavily on the social support to give them a sense of self-existence or self security. This could lead to obsessive behaviours in playing online social media until it affects every day's life. Eventually we have to learn how to build our sense of security - not relying on other aspects, but on self-confidence and wisdom.

一天的婚礼

这是一个感人又特别的婚礼。
虽然尝试以平静的心去看，还是不禁落下了两滴泪~

而且，看了在面子书一些人的留言，才发现原来有那么多人，曾经有如此的经历：亲人被诊断癌症后，在短短的一个月内失去亲人。许多人是在突然和措手不及的情况下失去挚爱，然后内心就永远有了一个不可磨灭的遗憾。。。。

虽然这个婚礼，有人笑了，但是有更多人伤心地哭了，但是我想，这还是个对生命美好的交代啊！大家至少有机会表达对对方的爱，让说不出口的遗憾减少了，不是吗？

打从出生以来，我从未经历过，害怕这一天的到来，却也知道这一天一定会来。

如果身边的人，甚至我们自己，可能只有一个月的时间，我们会改变我们今天对待他们的态度吗？

会，我会更珍惜和他们相处的时光。我会给他们更多耐心，会更包容他们。

啊，但愿我如此提醒自己。

感人的故事

感恩，上个星期四的副刊，又捎来了一个令人钦佩的美丽的故事。
廖智，故事的女主角，是一位四川地震的生还者。她描述了地震发生的经过，读着她的文字，我也忍不住摒住气息，仿佛那血淋淋的倒塌画面正栩栩如生地发生在我脑海里。来得突然的灾难，真的不由得人去思考对策，只能下意识地发挥求生的本能。

对着她所经历的，从房屋倒塌，被压在废墟下26个小时，在黑暗中感受家婆的逝世，孩子的失去，丈夫的抛弃，甚至到面对截肢。。这一切生命不可承受的重，都在大地震动的那一刻起，接二连三地发生了。面对这么突然的一切，她除了面对与接受，还能作什么呢？

由于父亲于废墟中不断地呐喊她的名字，不放弃她，她重新燃起求生的意志。一开始，她也像普通人一样，哭过，崩溃过，想轻生过；然而重拾生命后，面对失去双腿的事实，她没有继续埋怨命运；面对抛弃她的丈夫，她希望父母亲不在别人面前说前夫的不是。在医院时，她就开始在想，怎样能帮助其他像她一样因此而残疾的人走出阴影。

之后，她敢于追求自己的梦想，即使这表示她必须付出更多的努力，更多的汗与泪。难道她不怕别人的异样眼光吗？不怕，是因为她接受了这样的自己。

是父母的爱，让她有力量从谷底走出来。除了震撼于在她身上所发生的一切，还更钦佩和感动于她的坚强和斗志。

看着她的文章，我不时回头望她那坚强的笑容。真不敢相信，有一个人从灾难中走出来了，而且没有了双腿，但是，她是微笑的，流露出她内心的那分从容和坚强，仿佛告诉大家，生命，虽然不是我们能够主宰的；但是，生命是拿来珍惜和奉献的，而不是用来蹉跎和虚度的。

一个没脚的人，可以跑步，去灾区当义工，跳舞；一个身体健全的人，有为自己的生命而跑？有为他人而付出过吗？我惭愧着，我深思着。

“只要还活着，就要感谢。” -- 廖智

Dispensing separation

http://www.fz.com/content/dispensing-doctors-patient%E2%80%99s-interest

Perhaps it's quite a good link to tell the public what the pharmacist actually does. XD